Page 1 of 2Last week, Modern Manners Guy Facebook friend Lilly emailed me about how two of her closest friends, Sarah and Kiel, recently started dating, and now she felt left out.

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In college, they did everything together; her and Sarah were roommates and Kiel lived next door.

They went to bars together, holiday parties with one another, and when Kiel broke up with his long time girlfriend, she and Sarah helped him out of that slump.

So, now she felt like an “outsider” or “third wheel.” When she said that, it reminded me of an a article I wrote called at that.

” I must have said a version of this in every one of those emails, working it into any situation I possibly could.

She wrote, “All they do is text back and forth to each other nonstop!

” I replied properly, “But aren’t you happy for them?” Then she told me how they were planning a trip to Spain this summer, which to me sounded pretty amazing.“Wow, that’s sounds like a great time–you should be happy for them! When she was able to step back and think about her true feelings–having them never get together or give it a try–she realized how rude she sounded.” Turns out she didn’t find it as awesome as I did. This went on and on until I finally broke down and replied, “Would you rather them break up? Lilly may have felt “slighted,” but love is one the world’s biggest mysteries, and her two best friends discovered it together. More importantly, if you don’t get that, how does that make you look? And I hate to even call it a “loss.” Mannerly Nation, a proper person doesn’t want anything bad to happen to friends, like a messy break up.Bottom line—and I know it sounds like a when they fall in love with each other. Change will always happen in relationships and, as you grow further into adulthood, that doesn’t mean your friendship should alter as a result. As I said in Tip #1, Lilly felt as if she was lost.Deep down, that was the core feeling about her two close friends now dating.