Common sense says that this guy is NOT ready to date, not yet.

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Some forums can only be seen by registered members. I dated a newly divorced guy and it was a disaster from the get-go. From a first-hand perspective - when I was newly divorced, all I cared about was having fun and enjoying my new-found freedom.

After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. Most have so many other things (emotionally/mentally) they need to deal with first. The very last thing on my mind was a relationship with any kind of substance.

When a newly divorced guy starts out strong and then all of a sudden stops. It's not gender-specific - happens all the time with both men and women. The trouble with people who are rebounding, is that they can't see their actions and feelings for what they are--they're too close to the situation to understand it clearly.

Well, that is because he wants to be with someone and then something reminds him of what a relationship brings. So this guy may have honestly thought he WAS ready to move on... After divorce, many people are desperate for comfort, for having that cozy couple-y feeling again and to not let the divorce side-track their life.

Consequently, many jump into relationships before they're truly ready, often without even realizing it.

The thing of it is, I don't think it's a good idea to have a false relationship, or to pretend that things are okay when they're not.

You guys were dating in a normalish fashion and then he freaked out and backed way off.

Eventually what you have right now will just fizzle.

I would tell him nicely that you really like him, understand he's not ready, and that you're looking for something that can eventually grow to be serious.

Tell him that if/when he's spent some time processing and is ready to date seriously again, he can give you a call.