I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.

___ A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.

As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.

There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions.

And I have been the dad who apologized for checking his phone when a text dinged while on a date.

Your willingness to let these types of requests presented as emergencies affect your plans can tell a lot about healthy boundaries and good parenting skills. As I move into a relationship with another woman, I know that too will become a priority.

Scenario 2: Request The text could be a request from one of the kids or the ex. ” And depending on the situation, you can choose to ignore (The discussion that evening: “You needed to ask me the night before, because I’ve already got plans.”) or respond. I’ve never really gotten past the dating phase, so I personally haven’t had to cross this bridge.

But I do know, that I push back on my kids all the time.

Scenario 1: Crisis If the issue is a crisis that requires a response, I will apologize, explain the situation briefly, and respond with a text or phone call. But if you’re avoiding the confrontation because “his kids need him all the time,” that might be the issue right there.

From that point on, please treat it as an unexpected emergency. Scenario 5: Kids as an excuse This is similar to number 4.