I once knew a newly divorced woman who wanted to meet available men, so she started a business offering cooking classes for divorced/newly-single men. However you connect with a man -- the uncertainty, the angst, and the ups and downs of getting to know someone new all over again can be overwhelming and downright frightening. Stay true to what you want and need, and go from there.That is unless you put dating in perspective and see it for what it is: not just a chance to meet new people, but as an opportunity to reconnect with your authentic self and put your positive energy in play as you paint your clean white canvas! Getting clear about what you want will help guide your mind in all kinds of positive directions to help you find and attract the right situations and people in your life. Men crave honest women who are up front about what they want in relationships.

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Their mind-sets, their strategies and their skills can all be learned and this is where Smart Dating: how to find your man comes into its own.

The dearth of commitment minded men and opportunities to meet them in today’s society forms the background to the book.

The message is that in spite of the break-up of the communities which facilitated introductions in the past, it is possible to take control of one’s chances of love in today’s more fragmented social milieu.

1st published by Harper Collins 2004 2nd updated edition, Mary Balfour Publications 2009 Read Smart Dating: how to find your man Mary’s mission in Smart Dating is to help women find the love they seek – without wasting precious time.

She explains how to be proactive and to create fabulous dating opportunities and relationships with or without dating agencies.

Step-by-step prompts and workouts enable the reader to design an individual strategy for this right away.Find out how to: Mary shares what she has learned from observation of intelligent and attractive women who have succeeded in finding their man.Good relationships, Mary suggests, are made not found. We laughed and talked about our dreams -- he seemed to be really into me. Friends would even comment on how great we were together. The same goes for Match.com, where 25 percent of its members are between 50 and 65, that segment having grown 89 percent in the last five years (71 percent after a divorce and 11 percent who were widowed). If online dating isn't your cup of tea, you can meet someone through professional contacts. USA TODAY reported people 50+ are one of the fastest growing segments among e Harmony.com's more than 33 million users worldwide.That represents millions of singles looking for love. You may ask friends to set you up, you could join special-interest groups -- book clubs, hiking groups, tennis teams, ski clubs or even a ballroom dancing or salsa group -- or you could just get creative.