updating table variables - Make friends online not dating
During the month that I used social dating apps to find new buddies, I sent countless unrequited salutations, offered up priceless New York City travel recommendations, and even gave my number to a guy who wanted to discuss first amendment rights. When I started, I believed that, with millions of people just searching for company online, I'd easily find my new bestie or at least someone down for a platonic hang.
I began my experiment in mid-August, downloading Tinder, Hinge, and Coffee Meets Bagel.
I was familiar with the apps beforehand: I used them for a month in summer 2013 when they were new and the It Thing among my friends, the source of all our war stories.
But I ended up hating them for dating because of their "all or nothing" protocol.
"I was serious when I said I'm just looking for friends on my profile.
You're so nice, and I don't want to lead you on in any way.
So if that's an issue, we should probably just call it now."We did; he never responded.
And he wasn't the only one who ghosted me after the big reveal.
It was getting serious with one of my Tinder matches.
After a witty opener (he, having studied at Oxford, asked if I was British because I somehow looked it) and exchanging our jobs and educational background, we were discussing our favorite Delaware beach destination.
He asked me if I wanted to hang out, and I said sure.
"Just want to give you a heads up, though," I wrote.