Greg Cason shares insightful advice on dealing with being HIV positive and dating, sharing the news with loved ones, and surrounding yourself with loving people.Go to more "Ask the Doc" and all your health and wellness needs.

The crazy thing is that his request was not the problem; I believe in freedom of speech, and he certainly had a right to his opinion.

The problem was that those words came from one of my own. I have never stopped dating since being diagnosed with HIV eight years ago. I do have options when it comes to men, and when dating, just as in the classroom, I prefer multiple choice: I date men who are HIV positive as well as those who are HIV negative. But while I don't discriminate because of a man's serostatus, I would rather have sex with an HIV-positive man so that I do not have to worry about infecting him.

Although I use protection, nothing is 100 percent certain, and my conscience causes me to be very careful not to transmit the virus.

On the flip side, dating an HIV-negative man means that I never feel the need to babysit: "Have you taken your meds, boo?

That is, HIV-positive men tend to say something motivational, while HIV-negative men often piss me off. But no matter who I'm dating, people assume that the men I date are HIV positive, too, because I talk about my HIV status on national TV.

Then again, HIV-negative men seem to believe that the fact that I share my story means I am very honest and open. These men wish that people wouldn't make that assumption, and they certainly don't want to be questioned about it.

I have yet to meet an HIV-positive man who is where I am about my HIV diagnosis: open and honest.

" Nor do I have to worry who would be there for the kids if we had a family and both of us got really sick from AIDS.

(Yes, people living with HIV can live long and healthy lives, but knowing this still does not stop me from having these types of thoughts.) Positive men seem to understand what I go through; for instance, I take my medication every day, but I do not like it or the side effects, and I constantly complain.

An HIV-positive man will usually say to me, "I know, baby, it is hard.

But you know what you need to do." An HIV-negative man tends to say, "Girl, quit complaining and take your medicine" -- as if he knows what it feels like to take 2,555 pills a year! My ideal guy would exhibit the best characteristics of both types of men.